Here’s my list for Day #4! I have been planning a post like this even before the 30 lists challenge! Here it is! 😀
1.) “Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not.” ~ Samuel Johnson
It’s ok not to like people and not like things they do. But I believe kind is still the best way to be. I’m generally kind to people and for the most part always have been, even when they’re unkind to me. Many people see it as a flaw or weakness or being naive. But I see it as a strength. I used to believe though, that when someone said or did something really unkind which made me very angry I should retaliate with more unkindness. Not always but more than I should have. The older I got, the naturally more kind and compassionate I have become even to those who aren’t kind and compassionate. There were still occasions I was so tempted to seek revenge or say something unpleasant to someone but I intentionally practiced more kindness and compassion, consciously making it my lifestyle, not just occasional acts. And the more I practice and mediated upon kindness, the more kind I have become. Sometimes I have setbacks though and I say something to someone that is less than kind, who does/says something that I don’t like and I later feel the guilt & remorse tearing me up inside. Kindness is always the way to go.
2.) Risking it all for love, pouring my heart out, reaching out in love….expecting/demanding nothing in return, is the way to be. I’m shy and it’s not always easy to reach out to help or compliment someone in person or online. Sometimes even people who aren’t shy may be somewhat hesitant. “What if that person doesn’t appreciate my help or message?”. “What if I accidentally offend that person?”. “What if I come off as weird or come on too strong?”. “What if the person won’t like me?”. “What if someone just can’t handle too much sap in one message?”……All of these what if’s may come into our heads while contemplating reaching out to people in some way. And some of these what if’s may be real, maybe some people will not appreciate us or our acts of love and random kindness but…..that’s ok! I would prefer to reach out and not be loved, reach out and risk seeming weird or sappy than not reach out at all. People don’t have to love me for me to love them!
3.) Self – love and acceptance are important and are not the same as conceit and arrogance. It’s ok to focus on and express your own beauty and goodness.
4.) it’s better to promote what you love than bash what you detest.
5.) “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~ Rumi
6.) Sometimes intentions really are just as important or more important than actions. Sometimes people intend well but accidentally hurt or offend or fail to do what they tried for some reason.
7.) The simple, everyday, mundane occurrences in life, tea with friends, reading a book, sunset and sunrise, hugging your dog, playing with your child, are just as important as, sometimes more important than the big things. The job promotions, the vacations, the celebration bashes…..
8.) it’s ok if life doesn’t always turn out how you wanted or planned. It can be just as wonderful, maybe even better.
9.) attitude and perspective is often much more important to our general happiness or misery than what happens in our physical environment. It’s all how you look at it.
10.) “A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.” ~ Elbert Hunbard
11.) no matter how long you have been traveling down the wrong road, as long as you’re alive, it’s never too late to turn around and start over.
12.) getting older is a blessing. It gives us more chances to love, be loved, bless and be blessed, learn and teach, grow and have deeper wisdom & beauty.
13.) Gray hair, wrinkles, curves, and laughlines are beautiful.
14.) “Kindness is like snow; it beautifies everything it covers.”
15.) “He who is contented is rich.” ~ Lao Tzu
16.) being kinder than necessary is a strength, not a weakness.
17.) your true character is more important than your reputation. Who you are matters more than what people think and say you are.
18.) “No act of kindness however small is ever wasted.” Aesop
19.) “I haven’t failed, I have found 10,000 ways that won’t work. ” ~ Thomas Edison
20.) “Where there is love there is life.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
21.) You can keep going long after you think you can’t.
22.) “When the going gets tough, the tough get going. “
23.) “If you realized how beautiful you are, you would fall at your own feet.” ~ Byron Katie
You’re body is amazingly beautiful, all it does to keep you alive each and every day. To keep you healthy enough to live. Even when you’re sick, your body is working hard to keep you going. Think about it. Your heart pumps, your brain regulates everything, your temperature is maintained at a safe level…..your blood flows, your breath lives…
24.) “I may be lonely but I’m never alone. ” ~ Alice Cooper
25.) There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy. There’s always something to smile about. Always something to be thankful for.
26.) At any moment, we can choose to fall to pieces or choose gratitude. I learned this much deeper when I watched a video with Amy Gill, a girl who lost her twenty-four day old daughter to a birth condition.
27.) at any given moment we can think of a list of reasons why our lives suck but at that same moment we can think of a list of reasons why our lives are simply amazing. The choice is yours.
28.) Hopelessness isn’t always despair. Sometimes hopelessness is letting go, accepting what we desperately want can not or probably will not be, and letting go, moving forward. Hope is beautiful and essential but it can also hold us back if we aren’t careful. We shouldn’t put happiness on hold hoping for better or more. I learned this better by reading things by Dr. Dan Gottlieb, a Philadelphia psychologist who experienced his own tragedies including the loss of people he loves and the permanent loss of his ability to walk whe he was in a serious accident.
29.) “You can be greater than anything that can happen to you.” ~Norman Vincent Peale
30.) Strangers are people with lives, stories, a breath, a face, and a name. They may not be someone you know or love but they are just as important. They are still someone.
31.) people can have strong opposing views including political and religious views. We can not like each other’s decisions, actions, opinions, and other things but we can love each other and not judge a whole person for certain things. We can still be friends.
32.) “If the world had a front porch, like we did back then
We’d still have our problems, but we’d all be friends
Treatin’ your neighbor like he’s your next of kin
Wouldn’t be gone like the wind
If the world had a front porch, like we did back then” ~ Tracy Lawrence
33.) “You don’t owe me a thing, I’ve been there too
Someone once helped me out,
Just the way I’m helping you
If you really want to pay me back,
Here’s what you do
Don’t let the chain of love end with you” ~ Clay Walker