Stepping out of our ruts


I was working on a blog post today about positive thinking and handling difficult situations and it turned out much longer and more disorganized than I intended.

So I decided to save it for a while and do a different post today.
I have a book of positive quotes, one for each day of the year. I decided to look at March 7th since that’s today and guess what?!

It’s about the very topic I was attempting to write about today! What a coincidence! There it goes again that law of attraction at play! Lol ;-D

So here’s the quote:

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.” ~ M. Scott Peck

Did you know that a problem, even a tragic, devastating one can lead us to something better than if we never had that problem? 

It’s true!


“To me, photography is an art of observation. It’s about finding something interesting in an ordinary place…I’ve found it has little to do with the things you see and everything to do with the way you see them.” ~
Elliott Erwitt

One example I have is my depressive condition. My depressive disorder is the catalyst for positive change and I am much better, in general, than I would have been if I never experienced the disorder. While I still plummet to the lowest depths of despair, I believe in the middle of episodes, I am better than I would have been if I never knew such pain. I work on myself constantly and have equipped myself with skills to help in any situation that seems unpleasant. I learned about meditation, gratitude lists, appreciative living techniques, and other things that can help anyone, not just depressed people. And that’s how I got this blog!  I wouldn’t have discovered all this if not for my quest to heal my depression I would still be happy but just not like this. Depression sucks but all we can do is cope with it and be even better for it!

Another example is my currently incurable
 pain disorder which causes wretched cluster-like headaches and other horrible physical pain. These headaches, no one can ever imagine the terrible pain involved like being burned alive and the terrible ache involved. I would take a kidney stone and a million broken bones anyday over this. But like my depression, these “headaches” have inspired me to notice the beauty all around me in a deeper way than before. Right before a headache gets to the point it’s unbearable, I begin to notice beauty in a way I never did before the headaches. They start out almost unbearable then escalate to literally unbearable. And before they get to be unbearable, I see the smallest simplest things most of us never notice. Like reflections bouncing off of objects, little beads of moisture on soda or water bottles, or someone’s shoulder in the scorching summer sun.
Sunlight dancing upon someone’s beautiful hair, the sounds of water drops….i can’t take as much pleasure as if I wasn’t having a headache but I wouldn’t have noticed these things as deeply as if I never had the recurrent headaches and it took a few for me to realize.
Then when they end I am still aware of the beauty and can take full pleasure. Even on days I don’t have these headaches of horror, I see simple beauty in a deep way. 

“Suddenly – life has new meaning to me.
There’s beauty up above and things we never take notice of
You wake up and suddenly you’re in love.” ~ Billy Ocean

There’s so much beauty we take for granted. Cliche and oh so very true. 

One warm summer day some years ago a headache hit me so hard and suddenly, unexpectedly as they usually do. I fell back onto my bed in my bedroom, clutching the side of my face. I was destroyed. My life was over, or so it felt.  I knew it was going to get much worse as I have had many before. I couldn’t believe the terror that was and that horror that was to come. And I looked up at my soda bottle. I saw something I have seen countless moments before, year after year after year and thought nothing of. But this moment, it struck me. The beauty of it, I almost had to shield my eyes against the startling beauty. I was awestruck and struck with remorse for overlooking it all these years.

Little beads of moisture streaming down the bottle, glistening and screaming, pounding into my brain and piercing the pupils of my eyes. As if to scream at me “Look at us! We’re here!” Pretty soon the headache completely took over and everything around me completely disappeared. I was engulfed by mind blasting shots of physical agony piercing my very essence. 

Then when I woke up, I was changed. 
I was reborn. I began to see a forgotten world of astounding beauty I have never truly laid eyes on before. Or I have and did not know it.  I still have those headaches and each one is a reminder to acknowledge the beauty, overlooked and ignored. The simplest of all the pleasures in this life.

Here is my post on the suicide/cluster/cluster-like headaches if anyone is interested in it. It’s very long, you can just skim through it if you want. It took a lot of strength to write.

And here is a post about my goal each day:

Think of all your problems no matter how seemingly serious or seemingly trivial. List them all. What can they teach you? How can they strengthen you? How can you use them to your advantage to awaken the wisdom in you? And if you can’t yet think of anything, make something up! Create something.

Let’s take a very trivial but annoying problem for example, being stuck in traffic. It can teach you patience, compassion for others who annoy you, you can practice meditation while not driving…and if not then you can make it a point to go home later and do something positive to “make up” for that minor but really annoying inconvenience even if that positive thing has nothing to do with it. Like donate money to a positive organization to help others, exercise, make it a point to warmly smile at someone you wouldn’t usually.
Don’t let those problems be in vain! Get creative!


Much love to you,

Xoxo Kim  ❤

7 thoughts on “Stepping out of our ruts

  1. It wasn’t until I was climbing out that I realized I was in a rut. i knew I wasn’t feeling like myself, but I hadn’t realized I had fallen into a hole until I saw the light at the end of the tunnel was up above me. Feels great to be back!

    • It’s interesting that sometimes we don’t realize something or how bad it is/was until it’s over or ending. I have felt that way too sometimes, not realizing how low/depressed I really was until it was about to be over. I’m happy to read that you saw the light at the end and were able to seize that light! It’s an amazing experience to come out of the darkness! Thank You so much for reading and for your comment! 😀

  2. Kim;
    There is something wrong in your blog; because; whenever you are publishing new post; it arrives in my inbox; but when I click on this post; the link

    This is the message I am receiving;
    Well this is somewhat embarrassing, isn’t it?
    It seems we can’t find what you’re looking for. Perhaps searching, or one of the links below, can help.
    Please do something very soon; because; right now; I am reading your all the post from the archives………..
    Wishing you all the best………………………………..

    • Thank You for letting me know! And Thank You so much for reading! Here is the real link to this post:

      At first I wasn’t sure what the problem is but now after examining both links, the one you showed me here, and the actual one (I posted above) I think I know what it is.

      I post most of my posts at night around 10:00 to 12:00 and for some reason when I post late like that, WordPress gets the date wrong. It puts the date a day later than it really is so I change it to the correct date and that must change the original link. WordPress must, automatically send the original link to my subscribers, then when they click on it, it goes to an error page because I changed the date.

      I don’t know how to fix this problem with the dates being wrong. It doesn’t happen when I post earlier.

      This is the link they sent you:

      And here is the real link:

      I see that the first link has “08” in it, probably for “March 8th,” which WordPress originally marked my post for.
      And the second link has “07” in it, probably for “March 7th,” which is the actual date I posted it and the date I changed it to.

      I will start posting earlier most days so this won’t happen. Broken links are annoying! Lol

      Thanks again for bringing my attention to this! I appreciate it! 😀

      Xoxo Kim

  3. Kim;
    Till today; I have read your countless post, commented on it and believe me it is true pleasure to read your post; today, I want your comment on my this post; I am quiet confidant about your descriptive as well as expression power;
    I wish my good friend will not disappoint me……………..
    Wishing you all the best…………………….

    • Thank You!! I receive your comments and I will get back to you soon! And I will definitely read your posts and comment! I often don’t see many blogs in my reader. I use my phone and can’t see everything but I will start bookmarking more blogs and go check them out more, including yours! Thank You for your link! I’ll check it out! 🙂

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