Once in your life you find her…❤

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Someone who turns your heart around…❤

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Recently I watched the movie, Arthur, with my dad, mom, and sister. My dad loves the movie and I have never seen it before recently, though I have always loved the theme song and wanted to see the movie.
It’s a beautiful movie.
Arthur is a man who lives a life of folly and fun, entertained by prostitutes, almost constantly drunk, he never worked a day in his life, his family is financially rich beyond belief. Arthur is to inherit over 8 million dollars!! Eight million! Whoaa!

But he only gets the money if he marries a girl who is a member of another financially rich family. If he refuses, he doesn’t get the money.
He is not in love with the beautiful woman his family demands that he marry so he refuses to marry her. But his dad tells him to kiss his inheritance goodbye and when Arthur finds out just how much money he would have gotten, he decides that he will marry the woman his family insists he marry. It can be kind of hard to resist 8 million dollars! Lol

Then Arthur sees her. Her. The woman of his dreams. A thief and dirt poor who lives at home with her daddy who is very good to her.

Linda is a cutie and full of life. She dresses in vibrant colors and isn’t afraid to speak up. She has a bright light around her. 

Arthur sees her in a store where she is caught stealing a gift for her dad. He comes to her rescue and they have an automatic and beautiful connection.

Unfortunately Arthur is already engaged to a woman he is not in love with.

He keeps meeting up with Linda and realizes it’s her he loves and wants to spend forever with.

Now Arthur is faced with a difficult dilemma. Does he disappoint his family and give up over 8 million dollars or does he choose true love?

I love the messages in the movie. One of them being that love is more valuable than money. 

And another that money does not necessarily bring happiness but doesn’t prevent it either. 

We can be happy being financially rich or poor.

One of my favorite scenes is when Arthur, his grandma, and Linda are all standing together outside and Arthur says he has always been rich but not really happy. Linda says she has always been poor and happy. And Arthur’s grandma says she has always been rich and happy.

I love the deep wisdom the movie conveys here, that money doesn’t make us truly happy but doesn’t prevent it either. And that being poor doesn’t prevent happiness necessarily. It’s about our attitude and choices, not money or material wealth itself. 

Here will be a spoiler if you haven’t seen the movie.

Arthur chooses love and gives up his inheritance. 

But…..

His grandma decides he can have the money anyway!

But…

He decides to refuse it and plans to get a job!
This doesn’t influence Linda to leave him because it’s love she’s committed to, not his money. 

But…

Grandma insists he take the money. She won’t have a member of their family be working class. 

So he takes the money and they all win!

I love the message that it’s not bad or wrong in any way to be financially rich or to desire material things as long as we don’t mistake them for definite channels to true happiness and love.

They can surely bring us a kind of joy we wouldn’t have without them. Of course we’re going to be happy having over 8 million dollars in a way we won’t be happy without it but we can still be just as happy without it.

Various people and things can bring out different kinds and depths of joy and happiness in us that we wouldn’t know without them. But we don’t need them to be happy. They complement us, not complete us.

I noticed that while this movie is full of love & beauty, it’s not a very sappy movie, at least in my opinion. I love sappy movies, songs, and books (but not usually poetry) and wouldn’t have minded it being sappier but it’s not so if you aren’t a fan of sap, you may appreciate it! Some people like love, romance and all but without the lovey dovey cheesy stuff! 

And the theme song is one of my favorite songs ever! I love the songs Christopher Cross sings. They are beautiful and often with a tinge of melancholy or a kind of sadness or somewhat dark beauty. There often seems to me, to be a hint of longing or allusion to some kind of pain or struggle blended in with the stunning beauty. 

“Wake up and she’s still with you
Even though you left her way across town
You’re wonderin’ to yourself
Hey what’ve I found” ❤

His singing voice itself, soft but profound, echoes a kind of melancholy, a haunting beauty, a subtle yearning for something deep, quiet and unspoken, a gentle but passionate quest for something always just out of reach. I feel that beneath the music notes and tender lilt is something, some kind of delicate daydream with the potential to unfold and become reality. It’s inspiring.

Always one of my favorite singers. I am so thankful he sings the theme song for Arthur. ❤

Much love,
Xoxo Kim 

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7 thoughts on “Once in your life you find her…❤

  1. sigh… if only life was like a movie.
    I’m not sure there is a “one and only” as there are many people one will never meet. I think we do the best we can, when we can. but I remain a hopeful romantic. 🙂

    • Yes I agree about the “one & only,” I never believed in that concept. There are some people we will have deeper connections with than most others (whether the attraction is romantic or platonic) but for most people I think there’s more than one. Thank you for reading and for commenting! ❤

  2. There are so many great lines in that movie, it is hard to choose, but I selected this:
    http://m.imdb.com/title/tt0082031/quotes?qt=qt0519369.
    As usual, your insight on the thematic importance of the film is so good. It is excellent use of humor to get inside the human condition. Joseph Campbell writes about “finding your bliss”, and I think that’s a key, because I think many – maybe most – of us stay in “safe” situations rather than going in the direction of our bliss.

    • Thank you very much for sharing! Yes, there are many great lines and scenes in this movie. Thank you for your compliment! Yes, so many stay in comfort zones where it’s safe and predictable but often not much growth. That is a great quote about finding bliss! I heard it before. 😀 I appreciate your comment! ❤

  3. There is a one and only, Certain people come into our lives for a reason and you know when you have met that one and only. They may not be perfect but they are perfect for you and the compability that the two of you share and the caring that the two of you have for each other is so deep and profound, its truly an amazing thing. I found that with my husband of 4 years, I cant imagine being married to anyone else.
    That being said this was a beautiful post and I so have to see this movie now… 🙂

  4. 🙂 Hes the love of my life and the best person that ever walked in my life. I cant imagine sharing the rest of my life with someone else 🙂 Im gonna watch the movie too

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