“I learned how to love before I could eat.” ~ Sam & Dave
“When I start lovin’ I just can’t stop.” ~ Sam & Dave
I took the personality test and my result is ENFJ. I took this test a few years ago also with the same result.
“ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities. More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others. ENFJ’s main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.”
People inspire me. I love learning about people and meeting new people always. I love stories of heartbreak, pain, hope & healing. I love how resilient and strong the human spirit is. We can suffer so much and still find it in us to rise above and keep going.
I have a genuine and strong interest in the welfare of people.
While I am extremely shy, until getting to know people better, I have always been an extrovert, not an introvert as many may assume. I’m quiet & shy but not someone who prefers to or needs or craves to be alone. I love people. Everything about them. I love company, friendship, and closeness. I love diversity and I soak up everyone else’s emotions and pick up on their energy.
I feel energized in a room full of people whether or not I know them. I don’t usually approach people first but once I am face to face with someone, it’s all good. I’m very open & trusting.
Some people are extremely outgoing and talk a lot even to strangers and people they just met but they are not very open about their lives, selves, opinions….
I’m the opposite. I’m not very talkative until getting to know people better but I’m always ready to spill my guts, and share with others. When people come to me first or when an opportunity arises, and after I get to know someone a little bit I’m good to go! 😀
I do believe I have excellent people skills. I’m good at work and anywhere tending to people’s needs and desires. I see the best in people and see much potential. I’m patient and understanding. Accepting, tolerant, and loving. Very easy going.
I’m good at “reading” people and knowing their strengths and weaknesses.
I can see how this can be potential for manipulating people and getting under their skin. But I use my people skills to benefit people, nourish their strengths, and encourage them, I generally don’t use my skills against people. That’s not my cup of tea.
While I haven’t known much about the sixteen personality kinds until a couple years ago, I was thirteen years old when I realized the passion and love I have for people and sharing my experiences with them and hearing their experiences. And the older I got, the deeper It got.
“ENFJs know and appreciate people. Like most NFs, (and Feelers in general), they are apt to neglect themselves and their own needs for the needs of others. They have thinner psychological boundaries than most, and are at risk for being hurt or even abused by less sensitive people. ENFJs often take on more of the burdens of others than they can bear.“
Yup, this is me.
I’m extremely good at detecting people ‘s true emotions even when they’re denying them. I’m empathetic to the point of ridiculousness.. I literally feel pain when someone else does and pleasure when someone else does even if I have never experienced what that person has but no matter how similar our experiences are I never claim to know exactly how someone else feels.
Often, when I hear about something tragic happening to someone I don’t know or I see it on the news, it hits me hard, shakes me up, almost as if I know the people involved.
And often when someone accomplishes or experiences something great, I feel almost as if it’s happening to me. When someone else wins, I win.
It’s weird. I have always been this way but when I grew up, it got way deeper. I now consider it a blessing even though it can be excruciatingly painful.
I frequently feel deep connections to people and have a deep uncanny knowledge or understanding of people. I get so attached easily and shortly after meeting someone I haven’t known before. I love hard, quickly, and passionately. I value relationships of all kinds. But because I’m shy at first, people tend to back away not giving themselves the chance to get to know me better but I understand.
Some of our strengths are open-mindedness and acceptance, & selflessness.
Some of our weaknesses are fluctuating self esteem -attempting to find the correct balance with living up to our own values but making others happy as well, often too selfless & too idealistic believing everyone is out to do good.
“In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals with richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.”
I don’t take these tests too seriously. I don’t need a quiz or test to tell me what I am. And most or at least many of us probably don’t fit any of our test result descriptions one hundred percent. Many introverts still love people and love to be around them. They can be loud, not shy, be the life of the party. And an extroverted person can still love physical aloneness every now and then. And people can be a combination of extrovert and introvert.
I love being around people but I also take pleasure in my own company. I like meditating, listening to music, reading, walking and still love it when I’m alone. Sometimes I want nothing more than to lay in bed reading a book. I can be reflective, deep, and intuitive just like an introverted person can be. And introverted people can have amazing people skills. We aren’t defined by these results and we don’t have to feel restrained to them like we must live up to them. They’re fun to take and read about and they often describe us perfectly at some points and can even help us glean insights about ourselves but to truly know ourselves, we must seek within and not merely turn to a set of standard questions that claim to tell us who we are.
I’m a very shy extrovert and I probably live more like an introverted person. I’m not usually the life of the party in groups of people. In fact, I’m usually the quietest one who takes the longest to open up. I don’t have lots of friends and I don’t go to clubs and bars and parties, never have. But when I am in a setting surrounded by many people, I am so happy, uplifted, and energized even when I’m not talking much until I get to know them better.
I would love to be surrounded by lots of people everyday, most of the day. And after a long day out with people, I don’t always have to retreat to a quiet room in solitude to recharge like some people do.
Just being in groups of people warms my heart and uplifts me and I would love to meet many more friends and be involved in more social things. That’s my goal.
Introverted people aren’t all creepy weirdos who live alone in a room blocking out the outside world(and not all people who live alone and want no contact are creeps or weirdos!). They’re not all shy, they don’t necessarily have social anxiety and they aren’t all anti-social. They can have fun in groups and working with people. And all extroverted people aren’t out all day and night at parties, clubs, bars…not all of them appear to be outgoing, they aren’t all loud and can even be quiet and shy. They can also love to be alone occasionally.
So while it’s fascinating to read these results and analyze them and apply them to our own lives, it’s also important to know they don’t necessarily completely define us and we don’t have to live up to them out of a sense of obligation or to make sense of a label or be confused if some parts really don’t apply to us. And it’s also important to have a better idea of what an introverted person is and what an extroverted person is.
I think many of us posses qualities of both, some are just more dominant.
If you want to see what kind of personality you have and read about it, you can take the test here:
And if you want, let me know your results! I would love to know! 😀
Strangers are just friends we haven’t met yet.
Every person is a doorway to a new world.