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For those who wish to cross the water….❤

“When you’re in that dark place and you need that embrace
You know love is never too far away.” ❤ 😀

(waterfront at penn’s landing – I took this photo a few weeks ago! What a breathtaking view!)

May I be like a guard for those who are protectorless,
A guide for those who journey on the road.
For those who wish to go across the water,
May I be a boat, a raft, a bridge.” ~ Shantideva ❤

 I love Shantideva & his compassionate life philosophy – to be all that we can for anyone we can, all sentient beings, humans & non humans, alike. Be present to listen when others talk, give whatever we can to those in need, feed stray & wild animals, rescue insects, put them in grass outside instead of killing them or letting them die if we can help it, be a friend to someone in need, include others into our groups, welcome strangers into our world, give directions if we can to those who are lost, do random acts of kindness….

 I have chosen to consciously live this way for so long but more now than ever do I realize the importance of choosing life and then dedicating that life to others. Recently I got a new job that is a very big responsibility and there is potential for big problems. It can be a lot of pressure sometimes but I love it! There have been a few occasions I needed help, made mistakes, have been very lost (both in location & just not knowing what to do). I have always had strong faith in the goodness of people and have always believed we are fundamentally good & so ready to do good, and I have been so deeply thankful for how many have come to my rescue and have been so kind and forgiving & understanding, both strangers & people I know. In just the few weeks I had this job I have encountered more rudeness (carried out by strangers) than in the decade I worked at a food serving store but that is nothing next to the love I have encountered. 

In May 2010, in the middle of a suicide attempt, I chose life & made the vow to myself to be all that I can be for myself and especially others and in June 2016 I took the Bodhisattva vows at the Buddhist Center, vowing to dedicate my whole life to loving others in any ways I can. To cherish others as well as myself but others first. This is the path I have chosen to walk and I am never going back. Of course I don’t always succeed at this. Sometimes I’m not as kind as I can be and do not do good. I struggle with severe depression off & on and still come close to killing myself some occasions. But I keep learning, keep living, keep getting back up & moving forward. 

And I don’t negatively judge those who choose a different path and do not do these things I suggest. It’s up to each of us to choose how to live. And choosing Love even just once in a blue moon is better than never! My love goes out even to those who do not send love to me. ❤

My new job provides me with a multitude of opportunities to encounter ordinary angels & to be one. But it’s not the job that gives me the ultimate opportunity to Love; it’s being alive. We can be homeless & jobless & moneyless and still serve others. Just a smile, a hug, a helping hand, a friendly hello, a warm glance, a listening ear….can do wonders for someone. Maybe even save a life.

Unleash that inner super(wo)man! 😍

“It could be someone walking down the street
A stranger on a bus
A little kid on his way to school or any one of us
We all got a little superman ready to take flight
And save a life ohh save a life
Take a look around and you’ll see ordinary angels” ❤😀

Ordinary Angels – Craig Morgan – mobile

Ordinary Angels – Craig Morgan – desktop

Much love & light to you, always & forever. ❤
 xoxo Kim

 




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Imagine <3

(Not my photo)

Imagine – mobile – John Lennon

Imagine – desktop
Imagine no possessions

I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people sharing all the world
You, you may say 
I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one
I hope some day you’ll join us
And the world will live as one”

Beautiful song & sentiment! Living as One. Always.

❤ Much & love & light,

Xoxo Kim

Peace, Love, & Harmony <3

This is my current phone background! It’s not my photo; it’s one I found on an inspirational wallpaper app. I have a few of those apps installed and they allow us to share the wallpapers with others through a share button and there’s even an option to send some of them right here to WordPress!

I think most of us are kind and loving anyway, in general but there’s always room to evolve right?! I think so!

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To me, the most important thing is to be kind & loving with sentient beings including ourself (yup, it’s a word! It’s used to refer to us in general as opposed to a specific group of people) but it’s also important to be patient with inanimate objects like the cash register at work. Lol Just earlier today I got pissed at it and cursed it. Not that it’s wrong to the object itself but it generates negative energy to allow ourself to get angry with something as dumb as an object not operating as it should. And if we allow it to happen too frequently it can become a habit. 

It’s not good to repress our unpleasant emotions and they are not wrong to experience or express. But we can practice lovingkindness so we have less angry occasions and more inner peace in general.

One way is when we feel angry, acknowledge it, know it’s ok, take a few breaths, mindfully, then let or attempt to let go of the negativity. We can even visualize all the tension, distress, negativity leaving the body with each exhale. It can become a very positive habit. Again, it’s not about repression of unpleasant emotions.

We can also cultivate a more peaceful attitude by giving thanks for whatever or whoever we are angry at. The cash register for example, it can be a big pain in the balls for sure but imagine what we would do without it! I don’t have to imagine! Years ago the thing broke! And my coworker and me were stuck having to use a calculator, pen & paper, and our own math skills (mine sucks!). It was hellish having a broken cash register on a hot busy day at an ice cream store!

So the cash register really does serve a great purpose. Why focus on the bad?

And if the person or thing or whatever just really seems to have nothing good to focus on, give thanks for this opportunity  to practice love & patience.Difficult situations and people are great teachers and reminders.

Also, I got pissed at this phone I’m using while trying to write this very post! Lol (I’m not in a pissy mood today, I promise!) Then I realized the irony and took my own suggestions to heart.

I took a few deep (as deep as I can, it’s hot and hard to breathe) breaths and decided to be thankful for my phone which is a blessing even with the problems it can bring.

Also, we can engage in a guided lovingkindness meditation session. There are so many on YouTube, some as short as fifteen minutes or less (like the one I will share below) and others over a half hour long. Not everyone wants to take the time for a full meditation practice and we don’t have to to practice lovingkindness.

We have so many opportunities to practice throughout each and every day. It can be as simple as wishing the best (even if just in our heads) for each person, insect, animal we look at. Even the ones we do not know or ones we dont have very positive opinions or affection for. 

We can practice love and patience in every single encounter or at least some for a start.

We don’t have to express it out loud necessarily if we dont want to and we dont even have to actually feel the lovingkindness always; it’s about intention until eventually we feel it frequently without trying.

“Fake it til you make it!”

I am naturally this way but still have space to evolve and find this practice so very beautiful and peaceful.  

LovingKindness meditation – mobile

LovingKindness meditation – desktop


Remember just like you, just like me, every living sentient being wants to avoid suffering and wants inner peace even if that being cannot express or even think it consciously.

Animals, insects, our friends and family, our annoying neighbors, our coworkers, troubled people, addicted people, homeless people, stray animals, people with mental illness, financially rich people, insects that seem repulsive or annoying …..all can experience pleasure and pain, suffering, love and loss, fear and peace…if we wont focus on the good in them then still let us remember again and again that we are all alike in the most fundamental or essential ways. 

I hope you are having a beautiful day or night wherever in the world you are!

Much love & light, always,

Xoxo Kim 

Bridge Over Troubled Water <3

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(Ben F. Bridge in Philadelphia, Pa)

“When you’re weary, feeling small
When tears are in your eyes, I’ll dry them all (all)
I’m on your side, oh, when times get rough
And friends just can’t be found
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down”
~ Simon & Garfunkel ❤

Bridge Over Troubled Water – Simon & Garfunkel – mobile

Bridge Over Troubled Water – desktop

Much love & light to you, always,

❤ 😀

xoxo Kim

Under the hat

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“Push through anything that would stop you.”

http://www.puttingourheadstogether.com/

The month of June is considered Headache Disorder Awareness Month and this organization “Putting Our Heads Together” has an Under the Hat project to bring awareness to chronic head pain. On June 25th we were supposed to upload pics to social media of ourselves wearing a hat.

Mine is late but better late than never! 😉

 Here is a youtube video created by a girl named, Anna, about head pain and pushing through it.

This Day- mobile

This Day – desktop
So inspiring! ❤

I don't have migraine headaches but have another chronic headache disorder which is generally mild but flares up to seemingly unbearable levels and can be debilitating. It's the stuff nightmares are made of. I have a constant headache, usually mild to moderate, more mild though usually, and it flares up for seconds, minutes, hours, days or weeks to beyond severe levels. Sometimes I have to stay in bed with migraine- like pain while other occasions it's a different and more severe kind and I can't be still and have to pace frantically, sometimes screaming hysterically til I lose my voice, squeezing things and hitting myself or any object I can get my hands on, trying not to crack my head against walls. These are cluster-like headaches.
Some have them everyday, every couple of weeks/months or can have remission for years before they come back. 
I have four kinds of headaches resembling sinus headache(this is the kind I experience in general), tension headache (least painful), migraine headache (second most painful but to me, the most debilitating usually), and cluster headache(most agonizing), and other kinds of facial pain.

There's no known cure and not much effective treatment. Pain pills aren't always prescribed by doctors to those with chronic pain and don't really work anyway. And even if they work for some pain, it's unfortunate to have to either live in agony or live all drugged up. 

While mine is generally mild, some have debilitating pain everyday or most days.

It's so difficult to have to endure. 

But we can learn to cope with this pain and live with happiness and joy anyway. 😀

Some people with cluster headaches try to invalidate the pain of those with migraine headaches. Cluster headaches are considered by some doctors to be the worst head pain known to medical science and one of the worst kinds of pain known to medical science. They hurt worse than kidney stones. People who have experienced broken bones and childbirth have said it hurts worse than that. I have had kidney stones myself and can say, it does hurt worse. 
I haven't experienced broken bones or childbirth myself so can't say for me but by the descriptions it does seem to hurt worse. 

It feels like a hot poker being driven through the eye socket, like being severely burned, like our nerves being tweezed. I heard it described as feeling like a jagged edged saw rubbing over the nerves.  
Yes, it feels like the worst hell on Earth. But just because it feels worse than a migraine headache doesn't mean migraine headaches are not terrible. They are also a living hell.
And if someone only ever felt migraine pain and not cluster pain, those people don't have the cluster pain to compare it to so to them migraine head pain is the worst. But some have felt both kinds of pain and both are horrible. 

I believe no one's pain should be invalidated and all deserve compassion. 

To me, the cluster head pain is so bad it like makes it seem in a way, that everything else I ever considered pain is obliterated after I discovered this kind of pain. And when it's flaring up, almost nothing else in the world matters to me and I don't have a care in the world except that pain. But anyone suffering in any way is worthy of empathy and compassion. ❤

My love & compassion go out to all with a chronic pain disorder. 

And here is a song with funny lyrics:

Big Ass Headache – Justin Moore – mobile

Big Ass Headache – desktop

“I feel like I’ve been rode hard and hung up wet
Swallowed by a mule and crapped off a cliff
I drank enough whiskey to fill up a lake
Woke up this morning with a big ass headache
Y’all I ain’t kidding this son of a bitch hurts
Where the hell are my pants must be with my shirt
I still got my boots on but make no mistake
They can’t help me kick this big ass headache”

lol!

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“because a migraine is NOT just a headache.”

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Much love & light to you,

❤ 😀

xoxo Kim

Love for all <3

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(not my photo)

Love for all irrespective of religious views, political views, skin color, ethnicity, race, sexual orientation, gender, gender identity, weight, size, disability, mistakes made, occupation, species, political/voting decisions, country, nationality…..all lives matter. ❤

In just about every group we can think of there's those who are good and those who act in not so good ways. Every religion and political affiliation and racial group has people who are compassionate and loving and generous and empathetic and those who are murderers, criminals, extremists, those who hold prejudicial attitudes towards others. 

In every breed of dogs there are loving, gentle ones, and vicious ones who kill or would if they could or had the chance. 

In almost every profession, we have those who are cold and uncaring and in it for money or image and those who are truly caring and want to help. 

I don't care (in a negative way) which presidential candidate someone is voting for or what religion someone practices or believes in or none at all. It won't contribute to me loving the person less even if I disagree. While I have passionate views on some things, I can still love those with opposing views without feeling that my own are being compromised or that my sense of morality is being weakened.  

And we don't have to judge a whole group of people based on a few or even many in that group. Even if every single person in a group is "bad" except one, we don't have to judge that one based on all the rest. 

I wish love and inner peace for everyone. ❤

This is possible! We can have inner peace and true happiness no matter our circumstances/external factors. People who say universal love is a beautiful concept but not possible or practical probably don't understand the true concept. In its most basic form, it's wishing everyone the best no matter what. We can't all get the same job at an interview and won't all agree on things and some will be financially rich while others are homeless with next to nothing but true inner peace is about our attitude and positive decisions even if we have to "Fake it til you make it."

Even if we don't wish someone the best in that person's political endeavors because we have opposing views, or we don't wish the best on an interview because we want that job or hope our friend gets it instead of a stranger, we can still wish that person/s inner peace and true happiness in general.  We don't need the job to have inner peace and happiness. 

Also, I believe most of us on every side of an issue have good intentions even if we seem stupid or vicious to each other. On issues like gun control, abortion, political candidates….we see so much viciousness and passion being used in a negative way. But if we truly think about it, we may come to understand that most of us want the same thing, a happier, safer world, people/animals stop being killed, an end to the violence, more love, more compassion, more understanding, autonomy. We just have different ways on how to go about it.

We can keep our passionate views and stand our ground, stand strong and firm and speak up for and speak out against but still understand that on "the other side," their conviction is just as strong as ours and they too only want the best for us all. 

We can passionately disagree and debate but still keep loving.  

I want to promote love in various ways, "promote what we love instead of bashing what we hate."

Promote our side instead of bashing (constructive criticism is good) the other or those who promote it. ❤

~Love for all~

"…keep loving
Everything you touch, everyone you see
Will soon become, your family"

Keep Loving – Empty Hands – mobile

Keep Loving – desktop

Much love & light to you, always!!

😀

Xoxo Kim 

Earth angels <3

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(not my photo)

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” ~ Mr. Rogers

There’s always beautiful Earth angels to help us when in need and we all have the power to help, uplift, inspire in some way. It can be a sweet hug, a friendly hello, a warm smile, a helping hand, a compassionate message. It doesn’t have to be something “big” like material things, money….although that’s great too. But even the simplest gesture can brighten someone’s life even if only for a few moments. ❤

Thank You all the Earth angels who help those in need!! Whether it’s a paid/volunteer job or just in mundane encounters, thank you! ❤

Ordinary Angels – Craig Morgan – mobile

Ordinary Angels – desktop

Let’s be someone’s ordinary angel today. ❤

Much love & light, always. ❤

😀

xoxo Kim